Survey Finding #2: Why having cancer attracts new relationships

I have a belief that everything is Energy.  Every object in the Universe vibrates with energy, the forces we see in nature are energetic, even our thoughts are energy.  I believe that you emit energy into the world.  The energy you emit is a reflection of the quality of your thoughts, actions, beliefs, emotions and relationships.   Essentially, the energy you emit is a reflection of how you live your life.  It also plays a large role in who you attract into your life - ie: your relationships.

If you haven't read my last post about vanishing relationships, go check it out now.  It lays a foundation for what I'm explaining here today.

When you first found out you had cancer, your life probably felt like a rollercoaster.  I know mine did.  But that rollercoaster quality has some advantage - for a lot of survivors it forces you to take stock and cut the crap out of your life.   You stop living sub-consciously and you are forced to live in the moment.  There is so much coming at you all at once, you can't help it.  And living in the moment always results in higher energies in your life.  But what is this all about anyway? To the results! 

Here's another key finding from my 2-minute cancer survivor survey (thank you again, all of those groovy people who participated, I love you!).  I revealed last post that 68% of survivors who responded reported having lost at least one relationship as a result of their illness.  In contrast and an even more compelling finding is that 85% reported to having gained a new relationship as a result of their cancer.

Wow!  This a great result! It's uplifting and inspiring and not at all surprising.  For cancer patients, this is a time in your life when you're searching for answers about how to heal and get better.  The best resource for answers such as these is always other people.  You're also in the likely position of needing some help, and sometimes new people show up in your life to give you exactly what you need.

I used to go for chemo every other Tuesday.  It was a full day affair for me.  I'd arrive around 8am for blood work and often would be the last patient out of the chemo room at 4:30pm.  After a while you start going to the hospital so often that you recognize all of the faces, get to know the regulars and all of the nurses and doctors...at least I did.  I also met another Hodgkin's' patients who was taking the same chemo as me and our treatment schedules were the same also!  What luck!  I kept seeing her every other Tuesday and finally introduced myself.

Her name was Lilly and she was my parents' age, but age didn't matter - we got along terrifically.  We could really relate to what we were going through in our lives.  She was one of those people who were always smiling, she was playful  and had a great sense of humour.  I soon found out she was mischievous like me.  We wander around the hospital with our chemo bags on IV poles and go for a short stroll outside.  It turns out the nurses didn't really want you wandering  around while high doses of very potent drugs were attached to your arm.  I started to look forward to seeing her on Tuesdays and catching up.  It made chemo days seem a lot less lonely and a lot easier.  She was exactly what I needed and somehow I attracted her into my cancer life at exactly the right time.

You see, that's how it often happens with cancer.  You're searching for something or need help with something and wham-mo!  It shows up at exactly the right time.  Why?  Because you're living in the moment and emitting that higher energy!  Those higher energies help you attract new relationships, often people who bring out the best in you.  These are people who have shown up in your life to help you somehow.  Now I'm not naive enough to suggest this is everyone's experience.  Some people may have had a very different experience.  But there's something to these results!

It turns out for many survivors, cancer is far from being an isolating experience.   86% attracted new relationships as a result of having cancer - and those relationships are important to them otherwise they wouldn't mention them in the survey at all.   Having cancer is definitely confusion : some of your relationships will be vanishing, while at the same time, new ones are popping up! 

I want to know about the special people who showed up in your life during your cancer battle or who are showing up right now.  What have they done for you?  What makes them special?  Share your thoughts with us.

Namaste,

Michael